I am a self-confessed news/political junkie. At least I was until recently.
After a tremendous week long vacation and the best Christmas holiday in memory, I sat down this week to enjoy our small-town newspaper’s 2007 ‘Year In Review’ issue. While flipping the pages I found myself pausing at what is arguably our biggest local news story of the year - protests and illegal blockades by a group of local Mohawk Natives and the subsequent arrest of their leader. Being adjacent to a reserve, Native disputes and the resulting conflict are a particularly sensitive issue in this region, as they are in similar communities across Canada and the U.S. This is not a commentary on these issues, although I am grateful for the moment of reflection perpetuated by the story.
While reading the recollection of the events I could feel the lifelong opinions that I have held on the matter rising in my mind. Many fragments of ‘fact’ that I have gathered and formed into an opinion and so many arguments (completely valid in my mind) as to why my opinion is ‘right’. I now realize that although I may not always speak aloud on such matters, the very fact I form these opinions at all only perpetuates the conflict.
Everyone exposed to matters of conflict, be it directly or indirectly is being asked to form an opinion, and our nature directs us to seek out reasons to validate why we are ‘right’ and by definition why a differing opinion is ‘wrong’. In some cases the need to be right is fueled by multi-generational opinions, the pile of rationalizations (and consequently the conflict itself) growing as each generation picks up the torch of defending their need to be right.
What if we took right and wrong completely out of the picture? What if everyone on both sides of a conflict, any conflict, took the time to forget everything they know (or more accurately think they know) about the matter and concentrated on what can be done to end the conflict right NOW without the interference of past ideology and learning? I believe most people may refer to it as Peace.
I have admittedly and ashamedly spent the majority of my adult life carrying habitual resentment toward so many situations and people – thousands of rationalizations as to why I am right and someone else is wrong. I have never been one for New Year’s resolutions, but I hope to venture into 2008 and indeed the rest of my life with renewed perception free of the need to be ‘right’.

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January 2, 2008 at 10:58 am
Christopher Wondra
Welcome to the Blogosphere Darren!
Great start! Hope you have fun with it. You have a great story to tell. I’m looking forward to reading your posts.
Chris
Thanks so much, Chris!
I’m certainly enjoying the ‘feel’ of writing so far. I don’t know how many people are actually going to read what I write or how my ramblings will be received, but I figure that if my postings are half as insightful, well put-together, and entertaining as yours I’ll definitely be on the right track!
Thanks for taking the time to stop by this very new venue!
January 2, 2008 at 1:42 pm
Christopher Wondra
IMHO–the feeling is what it’s all about. Obviously as a teacher I may be a bit biased here but I think writing is a great way to process, analyze, and learn from our experiences. Plus it’s super good for your brain. Blogging has the additional benefit of a potential audience as well, but don’t focus too much on that right now.
Write from the heart, tell your unique story, and people will come. Plus, once you’ve got some more posts up (this takes a bit of time, don’t rush it), we can do some fun things to promote and increase traffic–if that’s something you’re up for.
Later,
Chris
Hey Chris,
Sound advice as usual….Man, could I have used a teacher like you in my childhood!
Take Care.
January 2, 2008 at 10:15 pm
LyricalFool
No kidding, huh? I think Chris rocks
One of the most important things ever said to me was “It took me until I was 50 years old to realize I’d rather be happy than right.”
I was 29 at the time, and I argued over it. “How can it be mutually exclusive?”
The woman just grinned at me, and answered, “Don’t wait til you’re 50 to figure it out.”
I still struggle with it, but I think I’ve figured it out.
Welcome to blogging and Happy New Year!
Thank you so much for taking the time to read and especially to comment! I’m sure I’m going to struggle with it for a long while yet myself, but of the motivation to write things like this down is to give myself a bit of affirmation when I’m overwhelmed by the perception of someone being ‘wrong’. It can be a tough row to hoe, but I absolutely know it’s the only way to go if I ever hope to make any worthwhile change.